1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks? Yes No 

2. Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking? Yes No

3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking? Yes No 

4. Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking, to please you? Yes No 

5. Do you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions? Yes No 

6. Are plans frequently upset, or cancelled, or meals delayed because of the drinker?  Yes No 

7. Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"? Yes No 

8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath? Yes No 

9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout? Yes No 

10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behaviour? Yes No 

11. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking? Yes No 

12. Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse? Yes No 

13. Do you search for hidden alcohol? Yes No 

14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking? Yes No 

15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety? Yes No 

16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to control the drinker? Yes No 

17. Do you think that, if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved? Yes No 

18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker? Yes No 

19. Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time? Yes No 

20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems? Yes No 
 
 

If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, you may find help in Al-Anon or Alateen.